Wedding Guest Etiquette
Weddings are a big day for brides and grooms and if they have invited you to celebrate with them then make sure you know how to be the perfect guest. Check out some wedding guest etiquette rules to set you on the right path…
Send your RSVP
Anyone who’s ever been in a wedding party knows that the bride and groom will still send you a wedding invite, even if you already know when the event will be. So it’s only good manners to return your RSVP even if you have told the couple verbally that you will attend. Remember they might not be the ones confirming final numbers with the venue.
Check for plus ones
The bride and groom may already know that you have a significant other but don’t assume that they can tag along. They may wish their day to be for only those that they know and love. It should be clear on your invite if a plus one is included, so please don’t just turn up on the day with an extra guest. The same applies for children, if they are invited it will be on the invite.
If for some reason you have accepted the invite then you either change your mind or have a legitimate reason for not attending please tell the bride and groom. There is nothing worse than guests not showing up on the day and the couple still having to pay for their meals.
Send your congratulations even if you don’t go. If you receive an invite and can’t make the wedding it is always appreciated if you send your congratulations to the happy couple. Don’t feel like you have to send a gift however a gift card for their favourite store may be a thoughtful idea.
Stick to the wedding gift registry/list
Some couples feel weird about making a list and think it suggests to their guests that they’re demanding which items are to be purchased or hinting that a gift is necessary. Most couples will have one as people will ask them what they want as a wedding gift, so it’s an easy way to actually get the items they want. If there is nothing on the list that you want to buy then a gift card would be acceptable. Don’t go and buy a random gift!
Respect the dress code
Sometimes a wedding invitation might have a dress code, this is not overly common in Northern Ireland. However if it is the case it can leave you feeling a little confused or panicked. The main dress code that would be highlighted is a “Black Tie” wedding and this would mean formal wear is required, including floor-length gowns and tuxedos.
Paul is married to Patricia (who helped him write these Wedding Hints & Tips posts!!) and the proud Dad to 2 fantastic sons.
He has been a full-time professional photographer since 1990 and been privileged to have been asked to photograph well over 1300 weddings since then.
He worked in his own High Street Photography Studios up until December 2010 when he decided to downsize and work from home. He now splits his time between running Photography Courses and Workshops and Wedding Photography, limiting himself to 30 weddings a year to maintain the quality and high level of customer service to each of his couples.
Based in Ballyclare, Northern Ireland